Monkey on Your Back?

By @butterfliesblue

 

 

Most people at some time in their life have had a bad habit which may be known as "having a monkey on one's back". This habit could be promiscuous sex, getting back into a bad relationship, smoking, drinking, gossiping, etc. Whatever it is, it's not good for you nor the people that may be involved. The truth is that people don't have bad habits just to have them. There is something so strong that keeps a hold onto that won't let you go. This is not for those that know they have a bad habit. This is for those that want to help get rid of it.

 

The first step in trying to get rid of a problem is admitting that you have one, You can't get better being in denial. It is important to try to figure out where does it comes from. Here are some examples of problems and possible sources of the problem.

 

 

Many people get stuck going back and forth to bad relationships. Are you afraid that you will not find anyone else? Do you not think that you deserve better? People that gossip seem to be seeking attention or acceptance. People that are always suspicious of others may not be able to trust their selves. Whatever the problem that you have, you need to find the source.

 

The best way of getting rid of any problem is changing your thought pattern. Actions comes from your thoughts so try to either broaden your horizon or spend some alone time doing serious thinking. Once your mind is changed, you won't have the desire to do that action anymore. Be careful with this though, The fact that you may have a problem is a red flag that maybe this can not be solved alone. Try to find someone to talk with unbiased opinions or do some reading on your problem. Whatever it is try not to do it completely alone. Most importantly if you have serious problems and don't want to pay for a Doctor visit, go to http://www.drphil.com/. If he can't help you, then you're just screwed.

 

 

 

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Do You Control Your Anger or Does Your Anger Control YOU?

Written by: @DreamAboutAlise

One inevitable emotion we will go through in excessive amounts in our lives, is anger. Most of us try to deny the fact that certain things make us mad with statements such as, “I really don’t give a f***,” “I don’t care,” “That doesn’t bother me,” or the classic, “Oh, you’re just a hater.” These commonly abused statements may feel pretty honest in the heat of the moment, but the truth is if you are using these words, you’re most likely really pissed off!

The effects of experiencing anger are extremely negative. They can result in stress, problems in families, relationship issues, alcoholism, drug abuse and in extreme cases; suicide. Being able to reduce your anger is a difficult skill to master because you need to know how you think as a person, what makes you angry, and you also need to understand the person who may have made you angry and why it cause you to feel anger.

A big thing about anger is that most of it is caused by misunderstandings. Sometimes we need to completely understand what is going on before we let it anger us. Assumptions, accusations and misunderstandings are common causes to anger. Relationships can be a big example because some people become angry about something before they know the facts. A girlfriend might see a text or a means of communication from another female, come to assumptions and conclusions, get angry first and THEN ask her boyfriend. The boyfriend then becomes mad because he has been accused of something he didn’t do. Now they are both mad. This is an example of how many breakups happen. We are quick to get angry over something we don’t even know about.

How can we prevent anger? The quote that helps me the most if from the bible – “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” This helps me in all situations. Ask questions before assuming, let the person explain him/herself, get a complete understanding of the situation before becoming angered.

We all have a little psycho in us, but let’s learn to control it.

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless