Fathers And Dads

by: @wwwgabecom

As you all well know, we all got dads. Some we know of, some we don’t. But the question is, how many of us actually have fathers? If you don’t know the difference its pretty simple, a dad is basically just the sperm donor and is good for nothing more than just a phone call few times a year, if that. While a father on the other hand is a real man, an actual father to his kids. He gives them advice when they need it, even when they think they don’t, and is Physically there for them.

The sad thing about us minorities is that its become common and to only have momma duke around. Anytime I hear some of my friends still live with both of their parents I’m actually surprised and its sad that it has got to this point. I mean, I know my pops, well I know who he is, but the person I’ve been living with my entire life has been my mother and i consider her both mom and dad.

Why? Well What’s the fathers job in the family? To provide for his family and protect and be there for them. I don’t know how I would live with myself if i were to get older and I’m not there for my family and my kids. if I’m going to have a kid, then I’m going to be a father to them, not just that dude that comes around every once in a while.

Some dudes now who are reading his may already be dads. Some may have been planned some of them may have not been, but that time has passed, it’s time to take on your new role. It’s never easy but you gotta do what has to be done, because it isn't about you anymore and that’s what i think the difference between a father and a dad is.

PS… I give much props to the single mothers that raise men on their own. They don’t get enough credit.

Edited by: @JohnnyMagma

Why Beat Me?

by @Urnotcute


I've always heard adults say if you don't beat your children you don't love them. To me you can never get your point a cross to your child by beating them in such a harsh manner. I understand discipline but when is the line drawn? I remember when I used to get spanked. I hated my parents right away. I truly believe if I had never gotten those spankings, my parents and I would be closer. Sometimes parents don't know where to draw the line with discipline. That is why some children end up looking like this after a beating:






A child is suppose to love their parents. A child is suppose to look up to their parents. A child is suppose to feel like they can tell their parents anything. A child should not have to fear their parents.


A Mother states:
I have a 19 yr old in College, never had to beat him, always respectful. I also have a 15 yr old that I’ve never beat preparing for college, and a 10 yr old who wants to become a doctor. What works for you, works for you, but not everyone and not every child needs that type of physical discipline. My whole family believed in beatings, I didn't. They were always surprised with how my children behaved, yet they beat theirs and still had to tell them to sit down 50 times. I am strict. We have rules.

Use Beating only if its NECESSARY.

Edited By: @JohnnyMagma

Parents On Twitter

By: @chicagoking

There is NO excuse for someone with a child to spend all day on a social networking site. While you are on Twitter all day seeing what topics are trending, where is your child? Sitting in the other room watching TV? You might think because your child is not in any harm that you are being a good parent, but it is quite the opposite. You are NEGLECTING that child. And for what? To speak to strangers thousands of miles away that you will never meet. It seems like recently parents have forgotten that their children are a priority, and not an option. There is NO excuse to ignore YOUR child for Internet strangers. It makes no type of sense.

This is the FUTURE? Smh

Why do we encourage this?
This is the reason why our generation full of thugs.
This is why our generation full of violence.
Parents please do a better job than this.
Too many young parents, too many single parents. Its only getting worst.

SMFH

Spanking: Is It Okay?

By: @JohnnyMagma

First, get your mind out of the gutter because this is actually a very good question that I think from generation to generation has become more and more taboo. Those of us with parents born in the 60's-70's remember what it's like to feel the wrath of the parent, and for a lot of us the dreaded phrase, "wait 'til yo' Daddy get home" was worse than walking down Death Row. But this new generation of parents 80's - 90's seem like discipline is limited to words and not action.

Some say it's wrong to hit your kids because they learn violence but I think that is only true when discipline becomes abuse, I feel some people don't know they difference so I want to map out a simplistic scorecard out for you to make it a little easier.

I think you get the point now. The bottom line is, don't electrocute someone when a simple static shock will suffice them. Spanking is about deterring bad behavior by inflicting a fear parental disappointment, not pain. Spank your child just hard enough to show their actions were unacceptable, bruising means you went too far.

Okay let’s do a quick test to see if you pass …

Which of the below photos is more likely the result of proper discipline?
 
Baby Jadakiss? or Bloody Timmy?

If you got this one wrong then you are probably destined to raise a child who is completely jacked up.

My man either wasnt beat enough or entirely too much ... please properly DISCIPLINE your kids.

Sources: Google.com

Edited By @Charisma_Monroe

BAD PARENTING

Anyone that knows me knows that I travel... A LOT. While out, I come into contact with lots of different people of all age ranges, races and creeds; I’m sad to say the African- Americans, generally speaking, are some of the worst parents I've seen in this current generation (1980's - 2010).

Now please don't take this as race bashing, or call me a "sellout" for speaking the truth. This is what I see with my own eyes, this is just my experience. I've personally NEVER seen any other race of people curse around/at their young children; I’m sure it happens, but I've never seen it. What the hell is so twisted in your dome that you cursing out a 5-year-old in public because they're doing something annoying? They are TODDLERS! If you're mad at the way they act while you are out and about, maybe you should be angry at yourself for how you've inadvertently taught them to behave. When I see kids getting cursed at I have the urge to call child services and beat the parent with a pillow-case full of hardcover parenting books. I feel sad for the kid and the future failed relationships they will endure because of how you are showing them to deal with issues (with loud, disrespectful, ghetto banter). We HAVE to do better people. If you are of another race please don't think you are exempt for all of the same violations, just because I don't see it personally doesn't mean I'm naive to its existence.

You have to realize that later in life that will hurt them socially, if you find it hard to see the correlation. Think about that horribly angry, violent, ghetto relationship you've seen/had (everyone has) ... that's the EXACT type of person they will become because of you.

P.S. Just because people don't have kids doesn't mean we don't share your frustration, at least you CAN discipline them. I can't pop and counsel every annoying child I come in contact with ... but I can trip them while they're running all over the dame place, accidently of course.

Take the advice and strive for your child to live better than you, don't repeat the cycles that caused some of your downfalls just because you had to live through them. Quit being bitter and be better.

One Yaself, Twice, I'm Gizzone

Written By @JohnnyMagma

Edited By @Charisma_Monroe