Just Be Yourself

by: @wwwgabecom

So one thing that took me longer to realize than it should have is that there are too many “personalities” in this world,There is no way in Gods name you could make all of them happy. It’s in our nature to want to make other people happy, especially the people that mean most to us. I would be depressed my entire life if that meant my mother and brother would be happy for the rest of theirs. But there is also no way that you can make everyone in your life happy, So how about starting with yourself first? That would make most sense. If you being happy causes someone else to be unhappy, well that may just have to be too bad for them.

The way I see it, the people that mean most to you would love to see you happy, its in their nature. Be yourself, make yourself happy and everything else will hopefully fall into place. No one can be you better than you can.



Edited by @JohnnyMagma

Age vs Experience

by: @wwwgabecom 

People don’t understand how important this is in any circumstance you’re in. How many times have you been in a situation where people automatically want to deem your opinion as valid just because of your age? We all know that age can go hand in hand with experience but at the same time there are old people that are naive and young people that know much beyond their years. 

Personally, I' am 18 and was holding down a full time job, going to school, playing basketball for my school and still managed time to chill wit the people that i wanted to. Meanwhile, how many of us know people older than us that are doing absolutely nothing with their lives? 

People have no idea what situations others have been in or if they may have been forced to grow up faster than may have had to. Age doesn’t really count for anything but experience does. 

Take advice from someone with more experience then you… regardless of Age

Edited By @JohnnyMagma

Friends, How Many of Us Have Them?

by: @wwwgabecom

I think that people throw this word around too freely. like they have a billion “friends” on twitter, a few hundred on twitter and tumblr… and those are your “friends”?

Honestly, if you can count 5 real friends in your life right now consider yourself a lucky person. Someone that knows when you’re upset, even when you don’t make it obvious. Someone you can make fun of and can make fun of you; Someone that knows your highs and lows; Someone who when something is going wrong and you’re looking for people to help you and you’re skimming through your contacts, they’re the person you stop and call or text.

A lot of people just like to party with you and make jokes with you because well, that’s the easy part. Being a friend is a lifetime job, no part-time over here. A True, Real friend has to be able to tell you things no one else can. So How many Friends Do You Really Have?

Edited By @JohnnyMagma

Abortion: Right or Wrong?

by: @wwwgabecom

This is such a touchy subject but something that could affect someones life so much. Personally, I believe that having abortion being legal is the only logical thing to do. But the problem arises because some people believe that life begins in one of two separate places. One group thinks that life begins when the baby is born into the world. while others believe that life begins when the sperm meets the egg. The way I see it, it really doesnt matter where life begins because of one phrase, “who’s body? who’s choice?” In the 1970’s abortion became legal because women have the right to make decisions about their own reproductive systems.

For those that know their facts, a fetus’ heart begins to pump after about 3 weeks and the brain functions after about a month and a half. 88% of abortions happen in the first trimester should be considered by people who are against it [1]. That means that most of the people having these abortions are people that clearly know they are not ready for that commitment and should be given the option of not having the baby.

We all know that we should be careful when having sex but stuff happens sometimes. I can make these opinions pro-abortion a bit easier just cuz i'm personally not physically the one carrying the baby and having to deal with the emotional stress part of things. But if you take away the option of abortion, tell me which you think is harder, giving up a baby that hasnt been born yet or a baby youve held in your hands and know its yours.

Alot of people say they have to be responsible for their actions but isnt going for abortion being responsible? Aside from the scientific benefits with stem-cell research and all that, we need it for the people that are forced to grow up faster than they would have liked to.

This is me just thinking out-loud.

[1.] http://www.prochoice.org/about_abortion/facts/women_who.html

Is Death Row Necessary?

by: @wwwgabecom

Is death row necessary? No, i'm not talking about the record label, i'm talking about a person in a prison where they eventually will be killed. These people did something so terrible that they had to die, but does anyone question the morality of killing someone because of a crime they committed. Taking someones life for the purpose of what? Getting them off the street? Proving a point?

A lot of people will say something like “You have to put yourself in the position of those families that have suffered” blah blah blah. Thats why they invented a prison, to take these people off the street and put them behind bars. Does anyone question the efficiency of the death penalty as a whole and all the mistakes that have been going on with the whole process. If you look at the graph you can see the inefficiency of the death penalty and longer sentences is actually 15x more efficient.

In the last 30 or so years there have been 130 cases of people who have been released from death row, Just imagine all the people that have died for nothing.

i mean honestly, does life sentence not work for these people? if the initial plan is to take these people off the streets to make them safer while giving families the satisfaction of justice then lock them up and make them suffer. Let them think about their situation and why they are responsible for it for the rest of their lives instead of doing them a favor. It just doesn’t work.

Then there are cases like Tookie Williams, (if you dont know who he is, google him), where he does something wrong but tries to turn his life around and writes a book telling people his story and how they shouldnt go down that path. Instead of letting him try to keep making a difference, they kill him.

So is Death Row necessary? No, it's inhumane and there are other solutions that are more efficient and effective in making society a  better place to live.

Edited By: @JohnnyMagma

Why Men Find Women Complicated

By: @wwwgabecom

Not saying that every woman is complicated but generally speaking as a whole, you women are the most complicated of both genders. It's never this or that with you girls, it's this AND that or you say you want this but you actually want that.

Lemme explain my logic:

Guys aren't complicated because everyone on the earth can name things that satisfy men and it's not rocket science. We ask that the girls don't talk too damn much and don't wine all the time. If we have food, video games and some "good good", we’re basically set. Thats it.

But with women, it's you want a “nice” guy cuz you're tired of the @*sholes…. BS.Ya'll don't get tired of nuttin'! Ya'll want the jerk sometimes and sometimes ya'll want a nice guy. So you basically wanna go out with two separate people. And when I made this argument with some girl the other day, she goes, "well you guys want a 'lady in the street and a freak in the sheets.'" But the difference is that the saying is telling you how to act and when each role is appropriate. Us men have to basically guesstimate when to be nice and when not to be.

Is this confusion from the females that frustrate men and on top of the fact that women are just hard to please,  (not to mention moody as all hell.) Why do you think you put mad girls in one house and you get a show, Bad Girls Club. You put mad dudes in a house and you’ll see them bringing random girls through, eating and playing video games.

Women are like a long word problem cuz you could get through the whole process of tryna figure out the problem, work it out, find out the answer and you could still get it wrong.

I believe so many girls don't even know what they really want. *shrug*. But they all surely expect us to!

I'm gonna catch heat for this one but idc, it's just what I think. Not ALL girls fall into this though, I'm just generalizing. So, if you're a woman that's not complicated, then you're an exception to the rule and this obviously doesn't apply to you.

Edited By @MzFilterless

Fathers And Dads

by: @wwwgabecom

As you all well know, we all got dads. Some we know of, some we don’t. But the question is, how many of us actually have fathers? If you don’t know the difference its pretty simple, a dad is basically just the sperm donor and is good for nothing more than just a phone call few times a year, if that. While a father on the other hand is a real man, an actual father to his kids. He gives them advice when they need it, even when they think they don’t, and is Physically there for them.

The sad thing about us minorities is that its become common and to only have momma duke around. Anytime I hear some of my friends still live with both of their parents I’m actually surprised and its sad that it has got to this point. I mean, I know my pops, well I know who he is, but the person I’ve been living with my entire life has been my mother and i consider her both mom and dad.

Why? Well What’s the fathers job in the family? To provide for his family and protect and be there for them. I don’t know how I would live with myself if i were to get older and I’m not there for my family and my kids. if I’m going to have a kid, then I’m going to be a father to them, not just that dude that comes around every once in a while.

Some dudes now who are reading his may already be dads. Some may have been planned some of them may have not been, but that time has passed, it’s time to take on your new role. It’s never easy but you gotta do what has to be done, because it isn't about you anymore and that’s what i think the difference between a father and a dad is.

PS… I give much props to the single mothers that raise men on their own. They don’t get enough credit.

Edited by: @JohnnyMagma

Is Jealousy Healthy or Not ?

By: @wwwgabecom

I think at one point or another we have all dealt with a person who is just unbearably over jealous.  Or maybe not because we are that person! There will always be those people that like that like to be attached at the hip and those who can't stand to be suffocated.

They say that jealousy comes from insecurity and to a certain point, it is true. But, there’s a fine line between being overly jealous and a healthy jealous. I think everyone would like a healthy bit of jealousy in relationship. For one, it shows that the person at least cares what you are getting yourself into. This is not the person checking your texts and photos to see if you’re being dishonest. They just want to know who you’re going out with; who’s gonna be there then tell you to have fun afterwards because there is trust.

This is the fine line that I was talking about earlier. A healthy jealous person trusts you, but just doesn’t trust the guys in the world cuz we all know how dudes are when they go out; on the hunt for some biddies!

The overly jealous person comes out when problems start. Everything seems to be the other person’s fault and nobody else’s. They are under the impression that they are playing the right role as a significant other. Which isn’t the case; the person is not supposed to act like a parent but they do anyways. They won’t let you out at times or at all. Anytime ya'll chill, they’re all up in your phone checking it, asking you who’s this or who’s that. But what’s the point of being in a relationship if you're going to have the other person on lock down, cuz little by little they’re getting tired of you.

If you’re one of these overly jealous people and know it, how happy do you really think you’re significant person is? Tone it down and they’ll get the point that you care and maybe they’ll feel like you trust them and who knows, it might even spark a new flame with you two. More trust equals more communication and better communication can only be good for the relationship in the long run.

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

The Friend Zone

by: @wwwgabecom

“So what's good wit me and you ?” “idk, I see you as more of a friend.” So how many of us has this happened to? Damn man, sh*ts the worst isn’t it? You have officially entered the friend zone, the most dreaded place for any dude tryna bag some shorty. Once you're in, you will never come out.

Basically, the friend zone is when she sees you as so much of a friend that she feels if she messes with you, it’ll ruin everything. But to be as honest as possible, when a guy is getting to know a girl that he finds attractive, if he hasn’t made it obvious then in his mind he is thinking about talking to her on a more intimate level than just friends. That’s why when girls are having boyfriend issues you have that one dude that comes along and tries to Dr. Phil, the sh*t thinking that when that relationship goes downhill, he’ll be first in line to try to get with her. But the risk they take with this is befriending her to the point where she comes to you for advice and she sees you as a friend and not anything more.

The key to staying out of the friend zone is keeping it real from the beginning and letting it be known what your intentions are. One thing people say is that you have to be friends before you can have something with a significant others. But that only works when your original intentions are not to get with her. If they are, then becoming friends along the way is the only way to go.

Cuz in the friend zone, you’ll find yourself hanging out with her, talking to her via aim or text but you never gonna hit it never gonna hit it, no *sings. Don’t be a p*ssy and try to be the nice guy, cuz we all know they finish last, and that’s entering the place of no return. The Friend Zone.

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

Guys Are ALL The Same

by: @wwwgabecom

“Guys are all the same !” . . How many times have you been on your Twitter account, on your Facebook or just having a conversation with someone and have heard this? Whichever phrase is being said, the one thing that stays constant is the word “ALL”! I could care less if girls think guys ain't worth sh*t and neither can any other guy! Unless y'all wanna turn lesbian, y'all still gonna mess wit the guys you say ain't sh*t so... stfu.

I just hope you’re aware that every time you say that you just sound like a desperate girl that cant find a man! In other words, you look stupid. Guys aren't all the same, maybe you get the same output from them cuz you're giving them all the same input. Ever think of that? Guys aren't the most complicated people in the world if you haven't noticed. We get hungry, we get horny and we make it pretty obvious when we got any sort of feelings towards you. Maybe it's you who makes things complicated!

If I were to tweet something like, "all girls are emotional, all girls ain't sh*t," etc, I’d get nothing but RT's from angry emotional females saying they not emotional!

All I'm saying is that you attract people with the output you give. You can only get out of a relationship what you put into it. Maybe it's time to check yaself and stop blaming others!

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

The Importance of Keeping it Real

by: @wwwgabecom

“Keeping it real”, we all remember the Dave Chappelle skit where keeping it real goes wrong, where he's making fun of people that seem to say they always keep it real. But in all honestly, some people don’t really know the essence of the phrase. Keeping it real is basically just another way of saying things EXACLY how it really is and not sugar-coating it. This is important in any relationship, whether it be your friend, your girlfriend or just anyone that you keep close to you.

Personally, I feel that some relationships go sour because one person in the relationship or even both don't keep it real with each other. The problem with one person being real is that the other person feels attacked in a way. You can either agree or disagree but that's just how I view things. You always hear that there has to be communication in a relationship but no one really talks about what kind of communication it is. Isn't it obvious? Be real with them, if you feel something is wrong, or even if something is going great, tell them how you're loving/hating it, or in another case how it's bothering you. They're your partner for a reason, try and resolve it. I'm not here tryna be on no Dr. Phil tip, I'm just “keeping it real.” On the other hand, if both people don't say nothing to each other then their relationship is based on lies because we all know if you keep something from someone that is a form is lying, (it's called omission, for those who didn't know.)

But keeping it real is not just with your significant other, its also with people you keep close to you; like your friends and family. There’s been situations where friends of mine be doing the dumbest things in the world and I tell them about it, to benefit them. Because a true friend looks out for your best interest, not their own. But you also have to view it through their eyes cuz sometimes what you define as dumb, is not dumb to them. So when I speak about the importance of keeping it real, it's also when to voice your opinion and when to hold back and wait for your moment. Some people are hardheaded and we know this lol. But you gotta be your friends’ crutches sometimes and hold them up, just like you’d want them to hold you up. It's as simple as not letting them go down a road you might've gone down or just telling them, “nah that outfit ain't lookin right, change.”

Keeping it real doesn't have to be difficult, but some people make it out to be.

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

The "White Privilege" by: @wwwgabecom

Some people think that being racist is only viewing a race negatively. What about puttin’ a race on a pedestal, even if it's done subconsciously? Most, if not all of us, do this on the regular and don't even notice it. But just being born a white kid, you're already at an advantage in the community and you did nothing to get it. Vice versa, minorities are at a disadvantage. Lemme explain my thoughts…

A white person can basically move to pretty much any neighborhood and not have the fear of some people reacting negatively towards them. They can go shopping and not have the feeling that all eyes are on them. White people don't have to make their children aware of the discriminations that may exist against them, because, for the most part, discriminations against white people don't really exist like that! A simple example; people talking with a mouthful of food. Sounds stupid right? But picture being at the mall, just chillin at the food court. There could be a group of white people in full conversation, all of which are blabbin away with food in their mouth. The most anyone would do is laugh at their lack of table manners. Let that be being a minority doing it, maybe even me, and listen to the adlibs change. You hear comments like, "look at this uneducated (ignorant) guy!" They [white people] can wear whatever they want to, almost anywhere they want to, without having to think about what people gonna say about them. A white person gets a position of power and the rest of the office doesn't seem surprised. But, when a minority gets that same promotion and it's a wave of “wow, what an accomplishment,” throughout the office. If a cop pulls them [white people] over they dont have any reason to believe it's because of their skin color. They can ask to “speak to a manager” in stores, and 9x out of 10 its probably someone of their skin color.

Another stupid thing, they can buy picture frames, and the model people in the frame are always what ? … caucasian. They can be late without having it associated with their race. How many times have I been late and people go, “Gabe runs on 'Dominican time,' ” meaning what exactly ? that Dominicans are always late ? I guess so. *shrug*

I can go on for days with common examples. But am I being racist? I dont think so, but maybe I have a bias opinion because of my own experiences. Regardless of the fact you can't say anything I just said ain't true. I'm Dominican and I read all of those things and think about if I did it, how would people react.

It's nothing against the white race because as I stated it's nothing they worked to get. They were born with The “White Privilege.”

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

Unwritten Man Laws

Just like we have laws in society to keep things in order, there are laws to being a man that men should abide by. They aren't written down anywhere,just programed into our heads at birth. Lol

Here’s a few:

1. When in the restroom, thou shall leave one urinal in between each person. If not, that's gay.

2. Thou shall NOT borrow your friend's clothes; that's gay.

3. Thou shall not say "hi" nor "bye" when talking to your boy; that's gay. Say "wattup" and "peace".

4. Thou shall not ever touch a female your friend ever had strong feelings for; that's f*cked up.

5. Thou shall not poke another dude on facebook; that's gay.

6. Thou shall not add another dude on facebook that you don't know; that's gay.

7. Thou shall not blow up your boy's spot when he's mackin'. That's f*cked up.

8. Thou shall not send smiley faces while texting another dude; that's gay.

9. Thou shall wingman when necessary; that's just the way it is.

10. If you are not talking about a girl or a baby, thou shall not claim something is “cute; that's gay.

(Edited by Shannon - @sprinkles__)

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