Making Love And Having Sex: Theres a Difference

By @Urnotcute

Making love has a high level of Caring, Understanding, Passion, Desire, and need to fully satisfy both people which may take hours before both are completed.

Sex you can have with anyone. If you have no Love between the two involved, it’s just having sex. There's no connection, just physical pleasure with no mutual emotional connection.



A young lady named Samantha said: I used to think there wasn’t a difference, but that was because I was only having sex and had no emotional connection with any of the guys I slept with. Now that I’m with my boyfriend whom I love dearly, I can see how drastic the difference is. Since I care about him so much, the sex is even better, more meaningful, and just overall amazing. Plus, the look in his eyes when we’re in the heat of the moment and then tells me he loves me makes it even better.

Sex Isnt Enough

By @Urnotcute

For some reason people think that sex is, and will be, the solution to all Long Term Relationship problems. But the truth is that You can do every trick and every flip possible to please your lover, but after awhile sex is just that… sex. It doesn't matter what you try, it is still with that same individual and it gets boring, New is always better than old. That's why people typically cheat, not because you were bad in bed, you can be better than the best, it’s just that they want something NEW and Exciting. To have a successful marriage, sex may sustain you physically, but you need more to keep it everlasting. Sex isn't everything, even though if you can't please your husband or wife then it can cause other problems, but A friendship is what keeps a marriage glued. Sex, though nice and enjoyable, will not be “The best you ever had” all the time for one reason or another. So what next? Leave?! NO! You should be in a committed relationship for much better reasons...PERIOD.



Edited By: @JohnnyMagma

What's More Important: Sex Or A Real Relationship?

Written By @sucmyknowledge

On Twitter, the other day I tweeted “In A Relationship.... Sex Should Be The Last Thing On The

List To Do” and of course I offended a lot of males. Why? Well, I guess sex is number one on the list to them. In my opinion sex isn’t the number one priority in a relationship. In a relationship in my opinion the top five priority in a relationship:

-TRUST should be the first priority in a relationship. If you can’t bring yourself to trust the person there is going to be conflict down the road for you. The person your with isn’t there to cause you hurt and pain but try to help you through all of the hardship in your life.

-COMMUNICATION should be second priority. Communication is key. No one knows what you’re thinking but you. Therefore you need to share with your girlfriend/boyfriend everything you want them to know instead of expecting them to just get it. You’re not a mind reader and neither is your girlfriend/boyfriend.

-LOYALTY should be the third priority. Loyalty is like a glue making people love each other, trust each other, It’s the basic.

-HONESTY should be the fourth priority. Honesty is telling the truth even if you think the other person's feelings may be hurt. Those little lies you tell are not really being honest. When you tell a lie, even a little tiny lie, you’re not expressing who you are and in fact you are giving a false impression of who you are.

-HUMOR should be the fifth priority. If you can’t make that person you’re with laugh there is NO relationship. A great sense of humor is a requirement in a relationship

If you don’t have trust, communication, loyalty, honestly, and humor. Why are in a relationship? What do sex have to do with any of the five? Nothing, I mean sex is an important thing in a relationship but if you don’t have them five things and only have sex. Your relationship may fall apart.

I asked a few of my followers on twitter “Do You Think Sex Is The Number 1 Priority In A Relationship?” (click name to follow them)

@victorious116 said: Sex is good but it shouldn't be the number one priority. To keep a long lasting relationship needs to have Trust, Love, And Patients.

@iSel_FoodStamps said: Honestly I don’t think it is. Its like an accessory to a relationship. You have to be mentally attracted to that person if you’re in a SERIOUS relationship & then the physical will automatically fall into place. The connection will be much deeper if your on the same level both ways.

@ThouShaltBeFlyy said: No not number one. I would say it would be number 3 or something because number one is friendship two is communication then 3 is probably sex cause people have needs.

@iSmackedU_Nshit Nah sex is the last thing I could care about in a relationship
But sex can sometimes either mess up or helps a relationship

I agree with all four of em and as you can see even the males some what agree with what I said… If sex is SO important to you then don’t get in a relationship but to be truly happy than don’t even worry about it cause it’s people who been married for more than 40 years and haven’t had sex in years and still have a strong and powerful relationship.

Source: Google and Google Images

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

Not Everyone Gives Head

By @Urnotcute


I was cammed up on tiny-chat and the administrator decided everyone was going to play Truth Or Dare. When it got to me I was asked , "Which guy do you want to give head too the most?" I replied, "None because I don't give head." All the females looked shocked in fact one even told me, "Grow Up Sweetheart It's 2010." I became friends with all the males in the room though because I was different from every female in that room. There was a time when if you gave head you was called names such as "bopper, bobble-head, smut," etc. Just because the year has changed doesn't mean standards should change especially if that's the only reason why you standards have changed. I am not looking down on those who give head but I just wanted to say for the record that Not Everyone Gives Head. My sisters' boyfriend told her, "What one girl wont dude another one will." That statement is true but at the same time that's all that side joint will be worth, her head game. Compromising your morals so your significant other can stay will not make them stay. Not everyone gives head.

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless
Picture Source: Google Images

Talking During Sex

By @iSkeetThenTweet

In my opinion, talking during sex is ESSENTIAL in keeping the connection. Since sex is 90 percent mental and 10 percent physical, maintaining a good connection with your partner is the only way to truly enjoy your sex. What kind of talking you might ask? Of course, you're not going to hold a full blown conversation about how your partners day was. SIDENOTE: TOO much talking about irrelevant things will automatically kill the mood. Anyways, talk a little trash, brag a little, test your partner to make them perform better. They'll have no choice but to want to prove you wrong, and when they go harder, YOU go harder. It makes for an exciting experience during sex. Make sure you talk loud enough for your partner to hear you. You don't want to have to repeat yourself every time they say "Huh?" Men, if your woman can't talk, you're doing a good job. On the flip side ladies, if your man isn't talking or moaning, you're not doing your job right.

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

What Men Really Want: How to Give GREAT Oral Sex

By: @Dreamaboutalise

If you love your man and he’s been a good boy, why not reward him? Studies show that men who receive oral sex are happier and become less stressed. If he does it for you, why not do it for him? Pleasing your man, in most cases, will end up turning you on in return. Who wouldn’t want to make their man happy? Using a combination of my prior knowledge and asking gentlemen a few confirmation questions, here is what I’ve come up with (in no particular order).

Continue to Suck AFTER He Cums – Men love this because the head of the penis becomes very sensitive after they ejaculate. Different men like different things when it comes to swallowing, but most men find it more sexy if you take that route and swallow.

Enjoy It - Let yourself enjoy it and sound like you are. A little moan never hurt anybody!

Do it Voluntarily – Be sexy about it... don’t make him ask you. Give it to him when he least expects it. Let it be a pleasant surprise and be happy to please him.

No Teeth – Cover your teeth with your lips and keep the opening firm, so it feels like his penis is entering a tight vagina.

Let Him Be Standing – There is just so much more opportunity when he is standing. It feels better for him and he can be more active in it as well.

His Balls – Either lick them, or try this: Put both of his balls in your mouth. Use one hand to circle the top of the sac, and gently pull it down to bring the balls together into a neat swallow able package.

Can’t Deep Throat? Use Your Hands – Do not use too much though. Whatever part of the penis you can’t take into your mouth, wrap your hands around it and simultaneously with your mouth, move you’re hands up and down. This way it will feel as though you’re taking in the whole penis.

Make Sure It’s Wet – Don’t be afraid to get your saliva all over it, let it run down the penis and the balls, massage it in with your hands while it is flowing.

Use Tongue - While his penis is in your mouth, use your tongue to stimulate the head.

Dirty Talk Him - Tell him how much you love sucking his penis. Tell him how sweet he tastes...etc. Men love women that can talk dirty.

Tease Him First - Tease him by giving it a tongue bath at first until he is dripping wet in your saliva and he can no longer take it. Then take it into your mouth.

All of these tips are great but practice makes perfect. The more you do it with your man, the better you’ll become and you will learn what gets him and what doesn’t.

Interviewed sources : @OuttaDissWorld @EatRonzilla @TheyCallMe_Z

Edited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

The 3 Reasons for Sex In Relationships

By @MzFilterless

Now, everyone knows that having casual sex when you're single is much different than having sex while in a relationship. There is no rhyme or reason for having just casual sex.... you're both feelin' each other in that moment ... nuff said.

Once you're in a relationship, however, especially one that has stretched passed that 2 year mark; the rules for sex changes dramatically!

Here's the 3 "Golden Reasons" ...

Hate/Make Up Sex - Never underestimate or take advantage of this rule. This is probably the best sex you will ever have, in my personal opinion. I'm not gonna lie, like many females, sometimes just to spice things up a bit, I'll pick a fight over something stupid just to apologize and engage in that ever-so-fun Make Up Sex session!

Mutual Sex - Pretty self explanatory. Just because you've been together forever doesn't mean you'll never again be in the mood at the same time! Mutual sex is whatever you make it. I refer to this as just plain sex, routine... pretty much normal.

Now everyone pay attention to this last one. It is the MOST IMPORTANT and the MOST NEGLECTED!!!!

Body Cavity Sex - Now, people, listen up! Whether you are male or female this Golden Rule WILL apply to you at some point in your relationship. When you enter in a relationship, you are entering into an unwritten contract to take care of each other. This includes sexual needs. There is going to come a time where only one of you is "in the mood." It is, I repeat, the obligation (and common courtesy) of their partner to be the body cavity. Take one for the team, so to speak! At the end of the day, you do love the person and are attracted to them or else you wouldn't be with them. So, just lay there if you must and let your partner get that release! Trust me, avoiding the attitude that will surely come after you deny your partner that release (on top of all the obvious perks of sex) will be well worth it.

Ladies, whether you want to admit it or not, we get just as cranky and testy as men if we haven't had sex. It's human nature. Embrace it, deal with it and learn to live with it! And if you find yourself in the position where you're just not in the mood to have sex and your man is rubbing up on you trying to get you in the mood ~~~> Just play Pillow Princess and let him to the work. If you go that entire "session" just waiting for it to be over ... I'd re-evaluate how you really feel about your man ...

How To Satisfy Your Man

When a DESERVING man comes along, why not cater to him? Ladies, if you’re looking for new ways to please your man or maybe just want to bring something new to the table, here are a few ways to do just that.

1. Massage: Start off by rubbing his back and the back of his neck. The lower back area, right above his butt is a pleasure point. If you’re feeling extra nice, go ahead and do a full body rub down.

2. Cook: You don’t have to go to culinary school to make a simple meal. Learn to make something easy, perfect it, and then make it for him. It’s a good look.

3. Lingerie: We don’t always match our bra and panties but on occassion put on some sexy lingerie and perform a striptease. Light some candles and put your baby-maker playlist on to set the mood. Have fun with it and tease him a little.

4. Blow Job: Don’t act like you’re doing him a favor by doing this. If you choose to do this, do it in a way that you would want it to be done to you. The fact that you genuinely want to pleasure him is a turn on in itself.

5. Variety: If you’re more submissive in the relationship try being the one to initiate sex, maybe wake him up with sex. Sometimes we get caught up in what we’re used to, but just because he’s the man that does not mean you can’t teach him something new. Watch porn, download a sex position app., do what you have to do to try something new. Even trying a different room could be adventurous.

6. Communicate: Talking dirty is not for everyone. Tell him what you like though. During sex, or after sex, let him know what felt good. He’ll get to know you better, and you’ll boost his ego.

7. Get Naked: Put your insecurities aside and be confident in what you’re working with. If you’re having sex with him you should be comfortable enough in your own skin to be completely naked. Visual stimulation is a great starting point.

8. Key Pleasure Spots:

o Outside of his lower lip – suck on it lightly when kissing him.

o Front of his neck – lick under his atoms apple while sitting on him.

o Head of the penis – this area holds the highest pleasure receptors; rub your lips gently against the tip.

o The Frenulum (F spot) – this is the area where the head connects to the shaft. When performing oral sex use your tongue to give him a few fast flicks just under the head.

9. Key Pleasure Positions:

o Cowgirl Position – This position causes maximum penetration for both partners. It’s also a great chance for you to put in most of the work and let him sit back and enjoy.

o Doggy Style – This infamous position leads straight to an orgasm with the least possible effort.

o Inverted rear - In this position you will assume the reverse straddle position and will be facing the ceiling. This position makes thrusting easier for him.

(These positions are more so for his satisfaction, although hopefully you will also enjoy them.)

10. Pay Attention: At the end of the day, you should know your partner best. Do your best to read his mood and how he’s feeling. Do what you can to satisfy his fantasies while still being comfortable.

Learn what he likes and doesn’t like. Keep in mind that every relationship is different and we all have unique preferences. Who knows though? Perhaps you’ll learn a thing or two about your significant other after trying some of this out. If you’re doing it right, and he likes it, you’ll surely be able to tell.

Sources from: Cosmopolitan Magazine & AskMen.com - Google Image

EdEdited By Jo Anne @MzFilterless

The Truth behind Masturbation

By @Duboised

Do you masturbate? Do you believe it's harmful? How many of you think it's shameful? Unfortunately, in today’s society, it is look upon as an embarrassment and other things to many. Sit back, learn, pay close attention and welcome yourself to the masturbation conversation.

Majority of you probably heard many myths about masturbation. Traditionally, it's been bloated with inaccuracies regarding negative effects. However, in reality masturbation is more of a help than harm.

Among other things, it can be used to increase

knowledge. Educators in sex consider masturbating as the “cornerstone” of sexual health. It's known as the first and safest way to learn how the body works. Such things can be learned like your turn offs and turn ons. You can even learn how to quickly, give yourself pleasure when in need of it.

In addition, masturbation also leads to self-discovery. Often when involved in intercourse, a person can become either to shy or self-conscious, or too distracted to pay close attention to the body. Masturbation when done by itself allows you to focus on the actions of your own sexual response and possibly come across things that you had not notice before.

Just cannot sleep at night? I have a cure. A 2000 study shows that masturbation is a great way to deal with insomnia and other sleep troubles. This U.S study stated that 39 percent of the women’s population reported they used masturbation as a way to fall asleep. Easily, masturbation that ends with an orgasm is a great method to sleep without medication hands down. It's a pain reliever also. If you are experiencing nonstop pains such as headaches, menstrual cramps, and sore joints in many cases a masturbation orgasm can be your relief.

Is masturbation a cure for prostate cancer? An Austrian study in the year 2003, founded that men who masturbated more than 5 times a week are less likely to develop prostate cancer. It states that regularly flushing your system keeps the semen healthy and prevents the building of cancer chemicals. What happens if you refuse to masturbate? Well, like laundry, frustrations build up and you end up with an extra load to clear.

THE TRUTH IS bating' is just as healthy as taking a bath, washing your face, or brushing your teeth. Where’s the embarrassment or danger in that? I believe the dart landed exactly on treatment.

Sources :http://www.sexuality.about.com

Advice for MEN

By @teatimegonewild

Girls need more than sex. They need love, affection and due respect.

Sometimes, all women need is a listening ear that means they're getting some kind of attention. If you don't pay attention, the next guy will. Not every male has a heavy budget but some females like dudes who do it the old way - come over and actually chill, watch a movie or TV, and have conversation. However, some females (not whores) don't like guys who approach them acting wreckless because if you approach them like that, they say you could approach another female like that too. Therefore they think twice about giving males the digits. In conclusion, I want to say males should just approach and respect the female figure and do things to them as you would want another male figure to respect a female close to you or in your family.

(Edited by Shannon - @sprinkles__)

Sex in RELATIONSHIPS

Sex is a topic most people seem to overlook when it comes to relationships. It may be different for virgins, but I know for experienced individuals like myself or my girlfriend, we feel it is essential for one to have experience.

What kind of relationship would you have if you NEVER had sex with the person you were with? You would be stressed out 24/7, which leads to excessive arguments. Once an argument is created, it seems like there is always someone waiting to catch you when you're upset and fill your ear with the "you don't need them" or "I don't want to see you hurt" line. THIS, along with you and your partner not communicating, leads to cheating. Cheating leads to break-ups, hating each other, and so on. Now, back to the sex. When you need to be "taken care of", you want it to be satisfying, correct? If someone can't satisfy you, then you'll be disappointed and look for better. Bad sex can change how you feel about a person in an INSTANT, especially if you're "experienced". This might not be something you openly admit, but it is something you think about.

Written By @iSkeetThenTweet